You know, I tend to be an observer when it comes to *a lot* of things. Don't know why, I just do. I'm a people watcher by nature. The one think I've learned from all my people watching is that, if you're looking to avoid all the social chaos, rumor mills, the he said / she said day to day bullshit... You should do the following two things. 1, Read The Four Agreements by Don Miguel Ruiz. and 2, Check out this wikiHow article, How to be Honest. The practices are simple, straight Forward... and, obvious. But, let's not kid ourselves, they are usually overlooked.